I know from my own indulgence in selfish behaviour that it’s much easier to get what you want if you remove from consideration the effect your actions will have on others.
1. Be happy
2. Be kind
These things will destroy the human race: politics without principle, progress without compassion, wealth without work, learning without silence, religion without fearlessness, and worship without awareness.
My grandfather always said that living is like licking honey off a thorn.
If we think only of ourselves, and forget about other people, then our minds occupy a very small area. Inside that small area, even tiny problems appear very big. But the moment you develop a sense of concern for others, you realize that, just like ourselves, they also want happiness; they also want satisfaction. When you have this sense of concern, your mind automatically widens. At this point, your own problems, even big problems, will not be so significant. The result? Big increase in peace of mind. So, if you think only of yourself, only your own happiness, the result is actually less happiness. You get more anxiety, more fear.
I have never been convinced there’s anything inherently wrong in having fun.
If it matters to you, then you’ll find a way. If it doesn’t you’ll find an excuse.
Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and often times we call a man cold when he is only sad.